Extract from a random conversation with Liana Brooks on learning to live with negative emotions – sharing because…?? I don’t know? Someone else might find it useful? My brain is a weird place and I feel you deserve full disclosure of that? Something. 😀
this is different
it’s not bottling
i know bottling
i come from a long hereditary line of bottling
this is just… acknowledging that the feelings are there but that that doesn’t mean they have to be in charge, right
yes, okay, i’m feeling blue
it’s kind of a light summery aqua, not a navy, so it’s easier
but it’s like
there is blue
this does not actually change anything
blue is fine
blue is not in charge
red is not in charge
purple is not in charge
blue is not in charge not because it’s blue, but because it’s a feeling, and feelings don’t get to be in charge
they get to help
they get to advise
but they only get to be in charge when I decide they are in charge
and right now, nope, not in charge
yes, i see you blue
you are there, and you are blue
and you can go and sit in your little blue corner and be blue, and that is fine
but while you do that, i’m just going to be over here being competent
and you can join me when you’re done, m’kay?
I read this fantastic article the other day by Jane Caro about weight loss and dieting. It’s not a topic I usually do a lot of reading on, but the link was part of a conversation on Twitter that was passingly intriguing, and I rather like Caro’s commentary on life (not that I realised she was the author until I read the byline at the end of the article!). I really do need to get myself back to a healthy weight this year, or at the very least a healthy level of musculature, because at the moment my 4-yr-old can literally whip my arse in a run around the block, and my lack of core strength means my loose joints fall out of place a LOT. And joints falling out of place HURTS. Just FYI.
So anyway, I clicked and read, and what I discovered was, actually, a radical approach to weight loss that, instead of advocating dieting and willpower, was actually advocating a social revolution: what if, the article supposes, we all changed our societal expectations of working 12-hour days, of getting home exhausted and dialling for a pizza, of high-stress, low-sleep lives, and instead focused on reducing social pressure? What if we tried to change society so it was acceptable to get the right amount of sleep, to take time off for family, to get home at 4pm so we had time to cook a healthy and nutritious meal?
You guys, I LOVE this. Stress and lack of sleep are, as the article notes, major causes of over-eating, especially for me–and over-focussing on what we eat can lead to all sorts of psychological and emotional drains, and even damage. So, this year, I’m going to choose to prioritise my sleep, not just because I know that I overeat most when I’m overtired, but also for the other flow-on benefits that better/more sleep will allow. 2017: the Year of Good Sleep. Because sometimes, you can’t change the world, but you can at least ensure that you’re equipped to cope.